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On your journey to recovery from your eating disorder, you may encounter many struggles. It is important to recognize that eating disorders are not about an unhealthy relationship with food, they are manifested by a need for control in your life that ultimately ends up controlling you. It is equally important to recognize and understand that when you struggle in recovery, it does not mean that you are lacking in faith.
Join us in today’s post as we discuss a few ways to allow your faith to guide your healing and help you overcome your eating disorder.
God knows you. Without saying a thing, He knows your heart. But, He desires a relationship with us, and for us to communicate with Him. Praying honestly requires you to search inside yourself and express those things you hide from others to truly show yourself to Him, to be bare in your vulnerability. Your honest prayers and pleads to salvation are important to building a relationship with your Father, but also to help you discover your truths for yourself.
So many who are hurting and struggling to deny their truths to themselves to help protect themselves. But, to heal and to overcome, we must identify these darknesses and confront them. During your recovery journey, pray often and pray honestly. Pray when you are scared when you are weak; pray when you are grateful and when you feel the strength of His love. Praise His glory and thank Him for His mercy and grace. Pray for guidance and direction, pray of your anger and your fear. Share your struggles and your victories with Him. Faith requires action, let it begin with honest prayer.
This will be difficult. Eating disorders develop from a need to control something in your life, so letting go will likely not be easy. This makes this step all that much more important. Surrender yourself to the love of God. Trust Him to guide your healing. Lay down your need to control and give your life over to His goodness. When you surrender to God, you can move forward, confidently and with strength, knowing that you did not surrender your strength to another person.
Limiting your intake to a point that endangers your life takes strength, power, and extreme control. Understanding this can give you the strength to refocus that energy and strength to surrender yourself.
Deliver Gratitude and Forgiveness
When we are broken and hurting, it is easy to throw our sorrows and hurl our rage at the feet of our Lord. When you bring your burdens to Him to carry for you, you must also carry Him with you in return. As sinners, we stumble and we are not able to deliver grace as humbly as He, especially to ourselves.
To overcome your eating disorder, practice gratitude and forgiveness. Look beyond your pain to find the things that you are thankful for and seek to forgive those who prevent your healing. Each day, find at least three things you are grateful for. These things can be as trivial as the shirt you are wearing and as meaningful as the air you are breathing. When it becomes a habit for you to find the things you are grateful for, it will gradually allow you to let go of the chains that bind you.
The Lord works in mysterious ways. We do not always understand His process, but we know His intent and motivation — love and grace. God will not appear in your room and hold your hand, but he will send help. Faith requires action and accepting the help that is offered shows that you acknowledge the gift that God has sent you.
Help may come by way of a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, or a residential treatment facility. In times where you feel broken, it is easy to get defensive and deny the help that is offered out of fear or perceived loss of control. Know that the help that is offered is the workings of the Lord — accept it.
Life is chaos. In the storm of daily life and, especially when you are waging a battle against your disease; worry and pain easily drown out peace. It is incredibly important to your recovery to listen to the silence, to find stillness and quiet reflection. Turn off the perpetual distraction and quiet the constant stimulation to listen. Listen to your heart, listen for God’s word and head His lessons.
At Canopy Cove, we know how incredibly important that stillness is in releasing the control you desire over your meals. We offer wide open space on the lush, green lawn in sunny Tallahassee. Miles of walking trails and horses who are silent companions, we offer the calm and quiet that is God’s medicine.
If you or your loved one is struggling with an eating disorder, contact us at Canopy Cove. We are a Christian-based eating disorder treatment center for women and girls. We use a wide variety of recovery methods, including reminding you of God’s love for you, to help you overcome your disease. Contact us to enroll in our program today.
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A prayer for those suffering from an eating disorder.
Dear Heavenly Father,
I come humbly to You, seeking Your grace. I beg at Your feet with repentance for denying that I am fearfully and wonderfully made in your likeness. I have not treated myself the way You do — with respect and unwavering love.
Lord, show me the source of my self-hatred and let me find healing. Help me to forgive myself and overcome this disease.
Lord, show me compassion and give me strength. Allow me to give myself over to You and bind my depression, self-hatred, anorexia, and suicidal thoughts; they shall no longer have control over me. I acknowledge that I am Your child and will seek Your guiding light toward salvation.
Lord, open my eyes, help me see the truth and deny the lies that have controlled my life. Help me to make the choices that will bring me life and allow Your light to shine. When I feel the compulsion, remind me of Your love for me. Heal my wounded way of thinking.
I will praise You because I have been remarkably and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful, and I know this very well.
In Jesus’ name, I pray for strength, grace, and healing. Amen.
If you are reading this, there is a good chance that you are a child of God who is struggling with an eating disorder and searching for help. Many Christians who find themselves gripped by body or food disorders feel like failures, less of Christians, and may feel ashamed. You may feel like you have disgraced Him and have sinned by denying His love. But know, that He only wants you to heal, recover, and find your way in life through His grace. He knows that we are human, we are flawed, and if you are here, you are on the right path to restoring your faith and seeking grace.
At Canopy Cove, we are an inpatient Christian-based eating disorder treatment center for women and girls. We are very accepting of those of other faiths and welcome differing views. But, in today’s post, we will speak of God’s love and how you can find healing strength through The Bible and help you understand that He loves you even when you are struggling to love yourself.
Bible Verses to Help Heal Your Eating Disorder
The beauty of His grace is that it is unmerited and unconditional. The church is not a showcase for the righteous, rather a hospital for sinners. When you need strength, trust in the verses offered by The Bible.
“As for me, I will call upon God; and the Lord will save me. Evening, morning, and at noon, I will pray, and cry aloud: and he shall hear my voice. He hath delivered my soul in peace from the battle that was against me.” Psalm 55:16, 18
Remember this when you are struggling. You do not have to save yourself, God will save you. Those who suffer from an eating disorder are not waging a war against food, they are suffering from a power struggle and expressing control by denying themselves the food of life. What may begin as control over eating, quickly begins to control you. You are under the power of your eating disorder. Give yourself over to God, allow Him to take control of your eating and deliver you from the battle that you are waging. Allow His love to nourish your soul and accept the food as sustenance, not as punishment.
“My darling, everything about you is beautiful, and there is nothing at all wrong with you.” Song of Solomon 4:7
You are made, perfectly, by His hand. There are no flaws to starve out of yourself. When you realize what a beautiful, remarkable, wonderfully made person you are, a work of God himself, you will be able to learn to love yourself and find strength through His works. As you work toward healing, remind yourself of this passage often. You are beautiful, remarkable, and wonderful, and worthy of living a healthy life.
“I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13
You can overcome your eating disorder. You can find freedom from its powerful grip when you summon the strength of Christ. Call upon Him in times of weakness, and thank Him in times of strength. Trust in Him and believe that you have the strength of God guiding you, watching you, protecting you.
“Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.” James 5:16
Eating disorders are an illness, not a sin. The importance of confessing the actions that you take and the struggles that you live is important to recognize that you are not perfect, and that is okay. Through this passage, you can better understand that He loves you in all of your flaws and all of your imperfections.
“Where the Lord is, there is freedom.” 2 Corinthians 3:17
Amen! This verse is so powerful for those who are fighting the battle against their eating disorder. Where there are those who give their lives over to the Lord, there is healing and freedom from the darkness that attempts to control them.
In your course of treatment, you will be presented with a number of guides and activities to help you overcome your eating disorder. There is none more powerful than the Good Book.
At Canopy Cove, we let The Bible guide our treatment, along with modern, conventional methods including equine and art therapy to help you discover your value. Contact us for more information or to enroll in one of our treatment programs.
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As parents, we do everything that we can to keep our children safe and healthy. We make every effort to provide them with the life that they deserve and will allow them to grow and flourish into successful adulthood. Despite our best efforts, our children will experience their own lives, thoughts, and feelings. They will have their own challenges and make their own decisions. It is an unfortunate fact that when many parents discover that their daughter is suffering from an eating disorder, they immediately blame themselves. I should have done something different, I should have seen the signs. Should I have been a better parent? Eating disorders are very complex and are often hard to identify.
Eating disorders are triggered by many different things and no two people are the same, no two eating disorder stories are the same. Join us today as we review some of the things that you can do to help your daughter from developing an eating disorder.
1. Understand Eating Disorders
Adolescents often use eating disorder behaviors as unhealthy coping mechanisms. It’s usually related to attachment issues or possible trauma. The important thing is to seek help from a professional if you think your daughter may have an unhealthy relationship with food.
Another important part of understanding eating disorders is to understand that withholding or limiting intake (anorexia) and binging and purging (bulimia) are not the only eating disorders that your daughter may suffer from. Overeating, constant focus on intake, and a deep emotional attachment to eating are other forms. Vegetarianism and veganism, while not eating disorders, can lead to the limiting intake that has the potential to become an eating disorder. Focusing on caloric intake and refusing to eat certain types of food, to the point of extreme compulsiveness is also indicative of an eating disorder. Learn all about the different signs of an eating disorder here.
2. Practice Open and Honest Communication
Again, it is important to understand that a lack of communication is not likely the reason that your daughter is at risk for developing an eating disorder. However, keeping open, honest lines of communication open between you and your daughter may help her confide in you more and allow you warning signs or signals before her fixations become a disorder. Listen for subtle cues of distress that may indicate ulterior motives behind their actions, and investigate if something seems off.
As parents, we know you do the best to raise your child and will find it difficult not to take the blame and try to figure out what you did or did not do that led your daughter to an eating disorder. But, remember this is not about you, it is about your daughter and now is the time to get her help and support her in her recovery. Contact us at Canopy Cove for more information about helping your daughter recover from an eating disorder.
Stay tuned for part two of this two-part series.
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Welcome back. In part one of this two-part series, we began the discussion about how parents can help prevent their daughters from developing an eating disorder. In this second part, we will offer a few more suggestions for concerned parents.
3. Set a Good Example
By setting the example in regards to healthy eating, weight management, and exercise, you can teach your children healthy ways to reach their goals and create a positive body image. Some things that you can do to set a good example are to never make disparaging comments about the weight, body shape, or food intake of anyone. This includes discussing your discomfort in the way your own jeans are fitting, announcing your disgust about the parenting skills of the chubby kid with the ice cream cone at the park, or discussing the odd shape of the person in front of you at the cash register. All of these things are absorbed by your children and they begin reflecting on their own body perception. Children are always listening, learning, and watching your examples — for better or for worse.
4. Don’t Focus on Food
Every parent knows that children can be difficult to feed and be incredibly picky eaters. It is important not to force your children to eat or bribe them to eat. It is also important to not reward a child with food or use food to soothe or as a distraction from being upset. Food should be treated as nourishment and not to escape emotions, positive or negative. Allowing a child to follow their body’s own signals while encouraging them to eat a wide variety of healthy foods will help instill positive eating practices. If you notice a sudden change in eating habits, you can investigate further. If you are concerned, consult your pediatrician. If you are dieting or restricting your intake, do not announce this to your children and certainly don’t encourage them to do the same thing. If you are fixated on food, your children will pick up on this and begin to wonder if they should change how they eat.
5. Talk With Your Children About Social And Mass Media
Our society is inundated with images of the ideal “perfect,” popular, and beautiful people. Social media is overwhelmed with accounts marketing weight loss supplements, bodybuilding, and modeling as though it is casual real life. This can be very confusing for impressionable young people with a limited world view. It is important to address these topics with your children. Teach them that what is modeled in mass media is not real life and that much of it is very fake. Avoid allowing your young daughter to review fashion magazines and if your daughter makes comments about how she wishes she looked like those women, remind her that those women spend hours in hair and makeup perfecting their look and professional photographers use the most flattering photography tools and that the image is then photoshopped to perfection, so that look is nearly impossible to achieve. Encourage a positive self-image and accept your daughter just the way she is, encouraging her to do the same.
There is no right or wrong way to raise a child and there is no one thing you can do to prevent the development of an eating disorder. It is important to be aware and intervene as soon as you notice something is off. If you need help addressing your daughter’s weight, eating habits, or a potential eating disorder, contact us at Canopy Cove. We have more than 30 years experiencing helping women overcome their eating disorders and helping families cope. Contact us for more information today.